So I suppose this is a “FOR ME” post. That’s all the disclaimer I’m going to give.
Oh, and that there are some labor pictures.
Today I’m sharing my birth plan for Porter. I’ve got 22 days until my due date so his birth (and how I’m preparing for it) is certainly on my mind.
As I did with Clara, I plan to have a natural birth.
I’ve done it before. I’ve felt (and overcome) that pain. I can totally do it again.
In my mind, there is no other option.
In my mind, I’m confident in my ability to birth without drugs. Without any interventions.
In my mind, I’ve made a plan of how everything will go.
If I’ve learned anything over the past 31 years, it’s that plans don’t always come through the way you want them to. Things could change – interventions might need to be made to keep Porter or myself safe. I’m completely aware that everything I’m envisioning in my mind might not come to fruition. And that’d be ok.
But that doesn’t STOP ME from planning for the best possible scenario!
A Bit of Background
With Henry, I had not a clue what I wanted or what I was capable of. I never questioned having an epidural. Going in, I’m sure I hadn’t read any birthing books and I certainly didn’t have a “role” for Travis to play. I couldn’t feel when my body needed to push – I tore a lot. I was drugged out….so was Henry. After the birth, nursing was difficult (but I stuck it out) and the bond I had with my son was anything but good. I suffered for 5 months with postpartum depression.
All I knew was that I wanted something different. I read this book. I took classes. I researched A TON. Drugs weren’t an option. I labored in a tub but ultimately gave birth to Clara naturally on the hospital bed. Travis and I toasted with orange juice immediately afterward – he was my “coach.” I didn’t tear one bit. Nursing was totally natural and I was able to walk around just an hour after having her. No depression whatsoever.
**(I’ll interject here and remind you that I’m not judging YOU by talking about MYSELF here.)**
Comparing the two births, one can see why I’d like to have Porter naturally. I’ll never know for certain whether the drugs played a role in my difficulty after birth (with bonding, nursing and depression), but it makes sense that a more natural approach would contribute much less to those factors.
Natural birth – how I’ve been preparing:
-> Hiring Travis as my coach again. He got me into this mess to begin with. Plus he’s pretty great at calming and soothing me.
-> Reading this book. And this one. And this one.
-> Maintaining my fitness level. I’m a huge advocate of using exercise to prepare the body for birth! The stronger my core, lower back and hips are – the stronger I’ll be during labor.
-> Focusing on “hip opening” techniques. Squats, plié squats, lunges, cat/dog pose and hip rocks on an exercise ball – these are all wonderful ways to strengthen and “open” your hips.
-> Using a “food as fuel” mentality. Childbirth is a marathon and I want to make sure my body is STRONG and FUELED PROPERLY leading up to the race. Throughout this pregnancy (and the other two), I’ve focused on fueling my body with nutritious, nourishing foods that will support growth and health for myself and the baby. Healthy food is especially important in these last few weeks leading up to labor.
-> Surrounding myself with positive, supportive people. Not everyone has the same views as me and I’ve found that they’ll tell you so. I consciously seek out people (especially during labor and delivery) that will speak positive, affirming words. Negative Nelly’s are a downer, man.
So that’s the “plan.” Wish us luck!
QUESTION: You’re entering a NO JUDGEMENT zone! Tell me about your birth(s) or what type of birth you hope to have in the future!