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what’s the BEST that could happen

March 21, 2014 in Blog, Faith, Goals, Inspiration, Intentional Living by lindsaymwright

Ya’ll.

I just woke up in a super large puddle of my own drool.  (Thank God it was my own.)

Last night (Wednesday) was rough – I had 3 hours of pretty intense contractions and cramping (time able ones)…then…nothing.  I must have fallen asleep.  I woke up this morning and just haven’t felt “right” since.

A nap was needed.

Labor impending???  That’s the thing – I have no clue.  It could be a couple more weeks of feeling like this…on the edge of labor.  Drives me nutty.  Control.  Why do I have to always be in control??!?

I saw a quote the other day on my friend’s Facebook page.  It just caught me at the right moment, made me step back and say, “WOW!  YES!!!”

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Seriously….What’s the BEST that could happen?!?! 

I love it.

Lists and prayer help, but I need this mindset on a daily basis.

What’s the BEST that could happen with my labor??

What’s the BEST that could happen with Blend Retreat??

What’s the BEST that could happen with our house situation (we’re trying to sell this house in Chattanooga! buy it!)??

What’s the BEST that could happen for my family?  For my marriage?

When I let my mind wander to the best possible scenario, FEAR HAS NO PLACE.  FEAR doesn’t hold me back.  And I’m free to completely, 100% positive about the future.

Think about that for a second.

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QUESTION:  What if fear of the worst were replaced with a hope for the best???  Fill in the blank:  What’s the BEST that could happen with _______?

splendid…lindsay

creating fitness-loving children

February 17, 2014 in Blog, Body, Family, Goals, Inspiration, Kids by lindsaymwright

I get that it’s winter. 

I get that it’s freezing (heck, we got 10 inches of snow last week!). 

But my kids are ANTSY to move

And even though it might not feel like it when you’ve got children running circles around the house, flailing body parts and jumping up and down all.day.long, your children might not be getting enough exercise. Childhood obesity has more than doubled in children and tripled in adolescents in the last 30 years, leaving more than a THIRD of our children overweight or obese (source). Genetics and diet play a role, yes, but our trend towards inactivity can also be to blame.

Exercise is important for children for the following reasons:

  1. It controls their weight.
  2. It helps them sleep better at night, for longer and higher quality.
  3. It helps them have higher self-esteem and self confidence by improving their well being.
  4. Exercise reduces blood pressure.
  5. Exercise reduces risk of diabetes and some types of cancer.

The American Heart Association recommends, for children 2 and older, 60 minutes of physical activity a day.  If you don’t have an hour, split it up in two 30-minute periods.  So the question is:

How can we as parents get our children to LOVE fitness?

Here are five easy ways to get started today!

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Be the change you wish to see!

Our kids pattern behavior that they see in us, whether it be positive or negative.  Make sure that you yourself are meeting the recommended daily exercise requirements.  For adults, this means at least 30 minutes of physical activity every day.  Sweat doesn’t necessarily have to be involved – you can take a walk around the block, work in the yard or play Frisbee.  As long as you’re moving, it counts!  Create a habit of physical activity for yourself and your children will most likely follow suit!

Get them involved in SPORTS!

In most states, children as young as 4 years old can be involved in community sports such as soccer, baseball and gymnastics (we all know how Henry’s soccer season went. Winking smile).  Karate is also a great option – often perfect for children who need a little more discipline structure.  Childhood involvement in sport activities has been proven to increase the likelihood of ADULT involvement in such activities.  Contact your local recreation park to learn more about sign up dates and deadlines!

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Head to the park!

Exercise should be FUN and who doesn’t have fun at the park!  Playing at the park for 30-60 minutes should provide plenty of physical activity for your child!  YOU can even get in a good workout at the same time.  Think Monkey Bar Pull-ups, pumping your legs on the swing set or triceps dips off the park bench.  <-although I gotta say, it is kinda nice to just sit on the bench in peace.

Make it a FAMILY affair!

Get outside and play active games, such as “Red Rover”, “Capture the Flag” or “Tag”.  Take family walks down at your local track or greenway and let your little ones run beside you.  Better yet, bring their bikes along – just don’t forget the helmets!

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Purchase active video games.

If all else fails and you’ve got to stay inside, purchase an interactive video game system, such as Wii Fit, XBox 360 Kinect or a Playstation Move.  The initial investment for these products might be steep, but they can be “played” everyday and are a great way to sneak exercise into your child’s day.  (We’re “borrowing” my sister’s Wii right now and LOVE it for those days we can’t get outside.)

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Overall, I think one of the best gifts we can give our children is SELF ESTEEM.  Yes, self, meaning it must spring from within them.  But when we encourage and praise (both when they win AND lose), we play a role in fostering up that child’s self image. 

Tell them they’re super fast (!!). 

That you’ve never seen moves like that (!!).

That they have a super high jumps (!!).

(use the word super a lot). 

Hands down, praise is one of the best parenting tools I have in my bag of tricks!  (it also happens to work on husbands too. #amiright)

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QUESTION:  Any tips to add??  How do you get your kids off the couch?

splendid…lindsay

wordless wednesday

February 5, 2014 in Blessings, Blog, Family, Food, Kids, Love, Wordless Wednesday by lindsaymwright

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More Wordless Wednesdays: #1, #2, #3, #4, #5, #6 (Colorado Edition), #7,#8, #9, #10, #11, #12 (Color Me Rad edition), #13

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QUESTION: Leave a wordless comment below if you’re awesome.

splendid…lindsay

why stretch marks aren’t as bad as you think

February 3, 2014 in Baby, Blessings, Blog, Body, Inspiration, Kids, Pregnancy by lindsaymwright

As a little girl (with no brothers), I saw my mama’s bare belly plenty of times.  But never for very long….because of the stretch marks.  Those pearly-white lines etching patterns into her body.  Like rivers on a road map.  Like a tattoo that she never really signed up for.

I’d ask about them (because I didn’t have any yet – surely I needed those to be a beautiful woman like she was (is).  She also had a big, puffy C-section scar – twice cut open.  I needed one of those too…) and she’d laugh them off and say something along the lines of,

You were worth it.”

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I never understood what that meant until now, in my third trimester, with my third baby.

Those lines.

They weren’t something ugly, like my mama thought but would never say out loud.  No.  They were a bartering tool.

My mama, like all mamas, traded her body for my life.

What a precious, flawless thought.

And that’s exactly what this journey of pregnancy is.  A handing over.  An act of trust.  Submission to whatever may come.  Stretch marks, c-section scars, the swollen ankles, nausea, the acne.  All of it – simply part of the deal.  Some women go through the journey unmarked, while others take on a heaping bag of stuff.  And the truth is, nobody goes into pregnancy and SIGNS UP for this stuff.  I won’t pretend that I, like many other women, haven’t sought out ways around the stretch marks and cellulite.

But….

When we devote time (too much time) worrying about how we’ll look after that baby comes or whether we’ll be marked up, we miss out on the beauty of submission and what the end result provides us withNew life!  A small chance to play a bigger role in something beautiful.

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I would challenge us all, myself included, to look at our bodies with a little more grace, pregnant or not.  And THIS is why I won’t be sharing any anti-stretch mark tips with you.  Because in doing so, I would in a small way be contributing to the idea that our bodies, squiggly lines and all, are things that need to be changed.

And they aren’t.

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splendid…lindsay

give yourself permission

January 31, 2014 in Blog, Blogging, Goals, Inspiration by lindsaymwright

“Mama, may I go to Nan’s??”

Henry asks me this everyday around 2 o’clock.

He asks for permission.

After calling to make sure it’s actually with Nan, I usually grant him this permission.  I’m the adult.  He’s the kid.  There’s a power hierarchy here.

So who grants ME permission to do things?

I do.

As an adult, I am in control of myself.  Whoa. Novel idea, right?!?

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I am in control of my body, my relationships, my attitude, my fitness level, what I eat (or do not eat), how I perceive myself.  Guess what?!  You are too!

With this control, we have a great responsibility.  And with that responsibility, the chance to make our lives better or worse.  I see a lot of people (mostly on Facebook – I don’t know why I even get on there) blaming others for their own situations.  This I cannot understand.  I also hear it when I talk to others about their weightloss or their fitness level – something or someone is getting in the way – never THEM.

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Me?  M&M’s all the way.

What we sometimes fail to do is give ourselves permission to be in control of our own lives.  To allow ourselves that responsibility and THEN to accept the outcome of those choices.  To quote Star Wars, “take care of yourself…it’s what you’re best at.”

Today, let’s give ourselves permission to:

  • REST, if that’s what our body needs.
  • REST, if that’s what our MIND needs.
  • eat healthy foods to fuel our workouts.
  • eat chocolate-covered cashews to fuel our souls.
  • move a little. 
  • move a lot.
  • drink that Diet Coke if it’s what we need to get through that trapped, snowy day.
  • force down that green drink that helps us poo.  (you know the one….)
  • sit on the couch for as long as it takes.  All day if need be.
  • forgive a friend who has said things behind our backs.
  • ask for forgiveness because WE were that bad friend.
  • change our attitude when it needs to be changed.

Here’s the one rule (and where that darn responsibility part comes in to play):  Whatever we give ourselves permission to do, we have to take OWNERSHIP of.  Because we are the ones in control – every individual for himself.

WE are allowed permission …. and we needn’t even ask for it.

Whoa. 

QUESTION:  How often do you blame others?  Know people who chronically do this?  Do you enjoy being an adult?  <-not always.

splendid…lindsay

intentional living – our decision to homeschool

January 8, 2014 in Blessings, Blog, Blogging, Faith, Family, Homeschooling, Inspiration, Intentional Living, Kids by lindsaymwright

Disclaimer: Intentional Living is not meant to judge, persuade, condemn or change. It is merely a sharing of ideas, thoughts and decisions.

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Oh, homeschooling.  Where to begin?

I prayed long and hard about how I would present this decision because like so many other parenting issues, the choice to homeschool (or not) is so very touchy.  When we tell others that we’ve chosen Option A, it comes across as a bashing of Option B.  People become defensive.  The word “judgment” is thrown around.  It’s amazing how quickly someone can become offended when another hasn’t chosen an identical path.

To be quite honest, our decision to homeschool really has nothing to do with you (unless you are my child reading this post, in which case, you are very smart to be reading so early and must have a rockstar teacher).  It’s simply an educated choice that our family has made with regard to how we spend our day.  I’m sharing it on the blog because I feel as though many young families are seeking alternatives to traditional schooling.  Homeschooling is certainly an alternative option.

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First, a bit of history:

I was raised in public school.  My parents both worked and my sister and I went to school during the day.  I excelled at school, even receiving college credits for a couple of AP classes I took.  I had some stellar teachers and some not-so-bright ones.  I LOVED playing school sports and competing against other schools.  I had many friends, some of which I still keep in contact with to this day.  Public school served me well!

Travis was raised in a homeschooling family.  His father worked and his mother stayed home and schooled the children (at the time, there were nine!).  He excelled at school, even receiving college credits during his high school years at the local community college.  Travis played soccer competitively up until he attended college.  He received a scholarship to UNC (where we met!)!  He’s a bit of a genius but still has the ability to interact beautifully in any social setting.  Homeschool served him well!

As you can see, the paths were different but the results similar.

Stick to the positives!

The negatives about public school really didn’t play into my decision to homeschool.  (read that again – it is KEY!  Because golly jeepers, I can’t think of a worse way to present this discussion – or any discussion for that matter, than by focusing on negatives!)

Rather, our decision was based on all the POSITIVES we saw associated with homeschooling.

  • I get to stay home with my children.
  • I get to teach them!  I get to experience their firsts!
  • I get to learn about the way they learn.  Are they more auditory??  More visual??
  • I get to choose the curriculum.
  • I can talk about God freely and without restriction.  I can make “Bible Study” an actual class!!
  • And my kids?….they get to spend the day with their mama.  They have a say in what we’ll learn about this week or next (I prescribe the fundamentals and they choose everything else based on what they want to learn about.  It’s HONEYBEES this week btw.).  They have flexibility written into their day.  AND they could (but we rarely do) spend the entire day with bedhead and pajama bottoms. Smile

All great things!

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Some days are easy.  Some are hard. 

Some days I question myself and my parenting.

Sometimes I want to run away and escape. 

Some days I wonder what it would be like to send them off and go to work.  

Some months it would be nice to have that extra income.

Sometimes I wonder if they’ll succeed later on.  Be “social awkward?”  Smart enough? 

But then I straighten up, stop questioning myself, and find comfort in the fact that most mamas feel this way about their kids, homeschoolers or not.  We all just want the BEST.  What does that look like exactly?  The definition varies from family to family.

As for the Wright family, we’re aiming to raise loving, ambitious, independent children who run after God and HIS plans…His heart.  We’re taking it one day at a time.  We’re covering this decision in prayer.  We’re being intentional about it.  And that’s the best we can do.

splendid…lindsay

**If there is interest, I’d love to write more about the day-to-day logistics, curriculum, our co-op, etc.  Please let me know if these topics interest you!!**

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More “Intentional Living” posts

An Introduction

Faith Based Living

2013: the year of perseverance

January 1, 2014 in Blog, Faith, Family, Goals, Inspiration, Kids, Love by lindsaymwright

I don’t know about ya’ll, but I’m welcoming 2014 with WIDE open arms!

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I’m not one to write things or people off but the last year proved to be one of the most trying for me.  Or rather, I think I had a hard time with The Waiting.

->  Waiting to move into our house.  (which I’ve YET to give you guys a tour of!)

->  Waiting to see if my job would get any better.  And realizing that I had to go in an entirely different direction.

-> Waiting to heal, mentally and physically, from two miscarriages.

->  Waiting to get pregnant again.

->  Waiting for sponsors to come forward for Blend 2014.

->  And now….waiting for God to heal me completely of this pregnancy nausea.

The thing about The Waiting….it’s when we GROW THE MOST as people.

When we become stronger.  When our patience is truly tested (and not in a, “Wait to open your Christmas present”-sort of way, but in a, “God isn’t speaking clearly for what seems like months and you want Him to NOW!”-sort of way.).  The Waiting brings our demons to the surface and then it’s OUR choice as to what we do with them.

Read the rest of this entry →

intentional living – “a faith based life”

December 19, 2013 in Blessings, Blog, Blogging, Faith, Inspiration, Intentional Living by lindsaymwright

Disclaimer:  Intentional Living is not meant to judge, persuade, condemn or change. It is merely a sharing of ideas, thoughts and decisions.

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When the thought presented itself to begin this Intentional Living series, I immediately knew that my first post had to be about my FAITH.  Every single decision I make as a woman, a wife, a mother, a friend, even a blogger, has pieces of my faith tied into it.  My intentional living springs from my faith – it feeds everything in my life.  And in turn, I am fed by it.

God so lovingly nudged me into this post, not once, not twice, but SEVERAL times over the past 2 years.  To publicly share one’s faith can be a scary thing, especially on a blog where that isn’t necessarily the “theme”.  It seems as though the world is going in so many different directions and choosing to be a Christian isn’t the norm.  I’m called to be OBEDIENT.  I’m called to share LIGHT.  So as an act of obedience to Him, I’m handing over this platform willingly, publicly and intentionally today.  This is a statement of my faith and a testimony of how much that faith rules my day-to-day life, thoughts and actions.  In this sharing, my intent is not to exclude or judge anyone else, but simply to share what I personally believe to be true.

So what DO I believe?

  • I am a Christian who believes in God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.
  • I believe the Bible (Old and New Testament) to be the true, living word of God, applicable yesterday, today and tomorrow.
  • I believe that Jesus is my personal savior and that by His blood on the cross, I’ve been provided redemption from my sins.
  • I believe that Jesus was born of a virgin, died on the cross, was resurrected three days later and now resides at God’s right hand.
  • I believe that we are called to have a PERSONAL relationship with God through daily prayers and conversations.
  • I believe in abiding by the 10 commandments and when I go against God’s word, I’ve sinned.
  • I believe that to receive God’s grace, I can neither DO enough or BE enough. It’s simply given to me.  It’s all HIM and it’s a gift that I’m ever grateful for.

A little bit about my walk with the Lord –> I grew up in a Christian household and I was saved when I was 11 years old.  I’ve had years when I was close to God and many years when I wanted nothing more than to hide from Him.  The thing about God is that He never, ever moves away from us – we move from Him.  I’d say that it wasn’t until I had children that I really grew to KNOW God, to grasp the depth of His love for me and to fully grow into an adult relationship with my Abba (or Father).

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How do I apply these beliefs to my every day life?

  • I regularly attend church (non-denominational).  Travis is the worship leader and I sing on the worship team with him.
  • I regularly read my Bible.  Side note: It wasn’t until 3 years ago that I finally read the entire Bible from cover to cover (using this plan, which I hope to talk more about come January.  Would anyone be interested in a 90-day reading plan?)
  • I talk to God several times a day, through prayer or just seeing something I’m thankful for and thanking Him for it.
  • I read a daily devotional (currently Jesus Calling).
  • I put God first in all of my decisions, whether it be where we send our money, how I treat my husband (Eph. 5:22), how I raise and discipline my children (Matt. 19:14, Proverbs 13:24), and how I treat my neighbor (Matt. 19:19, John 13:34-35).  In most of these endeavors, I often fall short.

Now listen, because this may very well be the MOST important takeaway from this entire post.  The list above are things I DO.  But doing them does not make me a better Christian, more pious, more likely to be “saved” or anything to boast about.  They are simply ways that I try to draw closer to God.

A works-based faith plan will never work BECAUSE GOD HAS ALREADY DONE ALL THE WORK FOR ME (Ephesians 2:8-10) 

When we place value on our OWN efforts, we fail to see WHO God really is.  We can never be enough or do enough for Him.  He doesn’t require that.  All He asks is that we seek and follow.  To put the World (possessions, lust, money, hierarchy, etc) aside and follow His path.  That’s it – so simple.  How freeing?!!?

So what about YOU?

Maybe you have an awesome relationship with God.  Maybe you’re an atheist.  Maybe you were raised in the church and have fallen away as an adult.  Maybe you feel like there’s something more for you but you don’t know quite how to get there.

I can’t convict you about your life and your faith.  All I can do is share what God’s done for me in MY life.

I write product reviews for companies all the time for this blog.  I *think* you guys trust me to be truthful when I like or dislike something –  heck, you might even go out and buy that product if I said it’s a good one.  I’m telling you today….

PLEASE know that there is a great God who loves you desperately, who sent His son FOR YOU, who fights for your well-being and will never forsake you. 

A God who knew you and named you in your mother’s womb. 

A God who is constantly trying to get your attention if you’ll just slow down and look.

It’s all written and explained in the Bible.  Some of it makes no scientific sense, but some of what makes faith so real and amazing is the actual FAITH it takes to believe in something you cannot see.  And actually, when I think about it, I see God in SO many things.  My children, my relationships, nature, answered prayers and even UNanswered prayers!

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My faith is something I’ll never deny.

And it’s something worth sharing.  Intentionally.  And with passion.

splendid…lindsay

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P.S.  If you’d like to share YOUR faith story, please write a post and leave the link in the comments!  I’d love to read it!

P.S.S.  If you’re looking for a place to start when it comes to Christianity, here are some books Travis and I truly love:

  • The Bible (obviously) – I typically read the NIV.
  • Staci & John Eldredge’s Captivating
  • Francis Chan’s Crazy Love
  • Brent Curtis & John Eldredge’s The Sacred Romance
  • David Platt’s Radical

what to want to write monday

December 2, 2013 in Blessings, Blog, Family, Rambles by lindsaymwright

Good morning and Happy Monday!! I hope you had a spectacular weekend (we did! lots of great food, fellowship and a head injury for Travis.  good times!). It always takes me a good day or so to ease back into the week after having time off with Travis and friends/family who are normally working.  One perk of being a homeschool/stay-at-homer is that I don’t have to return to a job today.  The downside is that I never really get a vacation from my job.  A trade I’m totally willing and happy to make.

Right now, it’s Sunday night.  Travis and Henry are across the street at bible study – Clara and I stayed home tonight because …well, I didn’t want to leave the house (even to walk across the street).  We participated in our town’s Christmas Parade earlier this afternoon – great fun, although the kids were a little disappointed that the onlookers weren’t throwing candy BACK at them (makes sense).  I just pulled a Canadian bacon/spinach quiche out of our teeny-1970s oven and it seems a bit wobbly in the middle so I’ll stick it back in.  That oven typically cooks all wonky-like so this isn’t anything new.  Pandora’s Christmas station is playing on my phone – Harry Connick Jr. sings “Sleigh Ride.”  I’m typing at the kitchen table in my flannel pajamas, the only ones that fit over my belly.  Clara is playing with cardboard blocks in the living room and singing to herself – I’m not sure of the song, neither is she – it’s definitely not Sleigh Ride.

Tonight is a good night.  In fact, most nights are good nights.

I sat down to write because I haven’t posted anything new since last Thursday and even that post was just a re-post from last year.  Even though this blog is just a hobby and not something I make a living off of, I still feel pressure to post at least a few times a week and ALWAYS on Monday since I never post on the weekend.  Anyway, I feel like I have a gazillion things I want to write about but I rarely ever make the time to actually sit down and write them.  It’s like this:  I want to share how awesome or hard life is but I’m too busy LIVING that life to write it out.  Or I want to share a candid picture of something that happened in our day, but, since I’ve yet to get that eye-camera-blinking-thingy into a working prototype and I’m too busy enjoying that candid moment for myself, there is NO picture to share.

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I guess all this is to say that life is good.  Overflowing to the brim.  And when real life is really good, the desire to share it online dissipates.  And this isn’t a bad thing.  In fact, it’s all I want to write about today.

P.S.  The quiche is still wobbly in the middle, but that didn’t stop me from having a piece.  Here’s the recipe I use (subbing in canadian bacon, skim milk and sharp cheddar.)

P.S.S.  Happy birthday, sister!

splendid…lindsay