that which should be unitasked

July 21, 2014 in Blog, Blogging, Goals, Inspiration, Intentional Living by lindsaymwright

It’s Monday.  And I’m happy!

I know.  I know.  I know.

We’re all supposed to be pissing and moaning about this worst day of the week but I just cannot help but smile real big.

Because the beach.

We leave THIS Friday.  As in this week.  As in I need to start packing.  As in can we please just skip over these next few days and get this lady a margarita ASAP.  Except I can’t drink (nursing).  And if I can remember back far enough, past the six years of pregnancies and nursing, I believe I’m more of an Amoretto Sour girl.

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[From our last trip three years ago.]

I mentioned last week that I’d be taking our beach vacation as a time to UNPLUG.  All next week, I plan to do a DIGITAL DETOX – no blogging, no instagram, no FB, no Pinterest (although I can’t remember the last thing I pinned.  Just looked.  It was these Apple Pie Bars.  Yum.  I should really make those.  But probably won’t.).  I DO have to check in a few times for a Verizon campaign I’m obligated to (which ironically is about living a #connectedlife), but aside from that, I’ll be unplugged.

This will be hard for me.

And I really dislike saying that about myself.

I just read a great article that Lindsay shared with me (I love her).  The article was about how we as Christians are allowing our phones to distract us (and this applies to non-Christians as well obviously).  I loved the entire message, but one quote in particular stood out:

“We are multitasking that which should be unitasked.”

Hold the phone.  (no.  actually throw the phone away because it’s distracting you.)

I don’t think I can add more to this perfectly descriptive sentence.

But I’ll try.

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Multitasking that which should be unitasked.  Like most people, women in particular, I must multitask.  It’s inevitable.  It’s how I get the dishes done and the schooling done and the baby nursed, all these things at the very same time…while my washing machine cleans our clothes.  I fear that if I didn’t multitask, we would live in a disheveled house with empty bellies.  I think it’s ok to do these chores simultaneously.

The key to the sentence is here –> “that which should be…” 

  • Sitting Henry on my lap and listening to him read.
  • Looking Travis in the eye every night during our #15minutesforyou.
  • Playing calico critters with Clara.  Getting down on the floor, into HER world.
  • Reading my Bible. Talking, listening to God.

Things which should be unitasked.  With all my focus.  Without a phone in my hand.  Without a blanket response because I’m really browsing Facebook and didn’t hear a word you just said.  To my credit, I’m getting better and better at this.  But I still sometimes catch myself …. because I live in this flesh body with worldly distractions.

I remember a time not so long ago when I didn’t have a smart phone.  Before blogging.  Before sharing every second of my life online.  And nothing was missing.  I was perfectly content with a life disconnected.

Flash forward to now and I’m rarely found without my phone in my hand.  I take it everywhere – it’s my phone, my camera, my connection to others.  I feel a little lost without it.  The part I struggle with is finding that perfect balance between living life IN THE NOW and living life DIGITALLY.  Because I do enjoy sharing bits and pieces of our life on Instagram.  I DO enjoy taking the pictures and updating Facebook with Clara’s latest quotes.  I enjoy it.  It’s not a stress in my life.  In some ways, I’d even say that it enriches my life.  Can social media do that?!?  I think yes in a way.  In fact, I believe that’s the point behind it.

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I loved this moment and wanted to capture it.  So I did.  But is that “living in the present?”

It would be ignorant for me to attack my cell phone or my computer for they are not the problem.  The problem is my heart and my focus.  To live a life completely “off the grid” just wouldn’t work for me personally.  But to live a life of intentionally investing in relationships and people, both offline and on, that’s where I wanna be.  Sometimes that requires a phone and sometimes it (purposely) doesn’t.

I’d love to encourage YOU to take a digital detox with me.  Even if it’s for a day.  You might be surprised by how often you’re reaching for your phone or computer without knowing.  I’m hoping to come back from this vacation with a refreshing.  Will you join me?

QUESTION:  Are you addicted to your phone?  To your computer or blog??  How can we live more “in the now”?

splendid…lindsay

flashback friday: the season of no

July 11, 2014 in Blessings, Blog, Blogging, Faith, Family, Goals, Rambles by lindsaymwright

It’s been a year since I quit my job to pursue my family.  It’s been a year since I took a full month away from the blog.  It’s been a year since I took the words and made them into action.

The year of many changes.

There are no words (actually there are more words than I have time to write)…but rather a sense of fulfillment.  The calm of knowing that I’m right where I’m supposed to be.  And though each day brings it’s own headaches, I can’t imagine going back to that place of RACING through each day.

Here’s the post that announced my last break.  I’m planning to take another in August – not a full month, but maybe a couple of weeks.  Blogging isn’t as stressful these days.  Because life overall isn’t as stressful.

Maybe YOU need a season of NO.

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First, thank you for the AMAZING comments in regards to this post. If you haven’t read it, go back and do so – today’s post will make much more sense.

As my title alluded to, I am entering in to a season of NO*. Let me tell you – this has been a YEAR in the making. A year for the stress of all the activities and duties that I’ve taken on to come crashing down around me (multiple times). I’m finally to the point where I need to step away from a few things. I need a season of no.

I need to take ACTION against what I struggle with.

Because busyness does NOT equate to productivity.

Because God is literally MAKING me lie down in green pastures.

Because my family and I deserve more.

What does that mean? What does that look like?

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In this season, I’m saying NO! to….

  • Working at the gym for the month of July (training and subbing). <-this led to me stepping away completely
  • Blogging for the month of July (writing and, sadly, reading).
  • Theater shows for the Fall.
  • Anything else that takes me away from my first two callings – wife and mother.

I think everything on that list is pretty self-explanatory, but for today, I’ll address the blogging aspect as it kinda-sorta impacts my readers.

I need a break from the blog.

When I started this blog nearly two years ago, my life looked very different. I had the convenience of TWO NAPPING CHILDREN who gave me two full hours of alone time a day (I miss those days!). I wasn’t doing shows. I had just started teaching at the gym and had no clients. Basically, I had more time. And my focus was more home-centered.

Flash-forward to now. Henry no longer naps. Clara’s naps are shorter and some days she doesn’t sleep at all. I’m at the gym for at least two hours a day, training clients – usually three. I’m at the theater two hours at night. I have no time to sit down and write. And honestly, when I get time to myself, I don’t WANT to sit down and write. I want to read a book or my Bible or work on a house project.

Blogging (the act of writing) is something I LOVE! But everything that comes with it (reading other blogs, social media, self-promotion) …..I just don’t love that aspect anymore. Some days it feels like my phone is super-glued to my right hand. It’s simply not fair for the people around me to be “absent” while I’m “present” online.

For the month of July, I suppose I could blog sporadically or line up guest posts, but I don’t even want to give myself that option. If I did, I would just devote thoughts to blogging and right now, I simply do not want to think about it.

This isn’t goodbye necessarily (notice the month of July thing above), but I suppose it could be the start of goodbye. Who knows??

I’m taking a month to find out.

Catch you on the flip side**!

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QUESTION: What do you need to say NO to in your life right now??

splendid…lindsay

on getting beach body ready

July 10, 2014 in #whatsbeautiful, Baby, Blog, Body, ED, Goals, Inspiration, Postpartum by lindsaymwright

I was at Walmart yesterday and saw TWO magazines with the term “beach body.”  As in “get yourself beach body ready.”

Here’s the deal ->  If you’ve got a body, you’re ready for the beach.  Period.  Nobody is looking at you anyway – they’re all too busy sucking in their own stomachs.  Promise.  The whole point is to enjoy the scenery and the food and the people you’re with AT the beach.  Not to be worrying what you’ll look like in pictures.

We leave for the beach in just two weeks and I’m planning to LIVE IT UP!  I’m also planning on leaving any insecurities I might have at home.  I’ll be sporting a baby on my hip and a pink bikini on my body.  I might be skinnier than you.  I might be fatter than you.  I might look like a fool running after her kids on the sand.  I might forget to suck my gut in.  I might have cellulite that shows on my (very white) thighs.  I might just go running on the beach with double sports bras on and some short shorts.  Who knows!?!?

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No matter what, I’m going to have fun.  And as long as my body allows me to run and play and hop and be able to do all the things physically that I want it to do, I’ll be happy about that.  If you ask me, there’s nothing sexier than self confidence.  Why is this concept so hard for us women to grasp?!?  Ask any man and he’ll tell you – confidence goes a long way!  It just looks good on us.

I like myself.  And I like this body.  The one I have right this very second.  And that’s ok to say out loud.

I’m totally beach body ready. 

Are YOU?

splendid…lindsay

my 10-day advocare cleanse

July 8, 2014 in Advocare, Blog, Body, Diet, Food, Goals, Postpartum by lindsaymwright

I’m not sure if the title gave it away, but I’ve been up to something behind the scenes over here.  I’m sneaky that way.

I just finished a 10-day cleanse using the Advocare products.

I didn’t announce it on the blog or social media (or really to anyone but Katy – who did it with me, and Travis) because I honestly wasn’t sure what I thought about the cleanse.  As you know, I’m not a huge advocate of food challenges/cleanses/diets/etc.  They all seem so …short sighted?  Obsessive?  I don’t know.  With my history of ED and food restriction, I have to be really careful when it comes to these types of things.  When Janetha blogged about her Advocare experience last year and how much she loved it, I kept asking and asking questions.  She finally said, “Just do it.  Try it and see how you feel.”

So I did.

Now that my 10 days are up (I only did the 10-day cleanse – there is a 24-day challenge that many partake in), I’m ready to talk about my experience.  If you’re squished for time (this is a long one), I’ll give you the one sentence synopsis.  I LOVED IT and I’ll do it again! 

The 10-day Advocare Cleanse

The WHY?

The primary reason I signed up for the cleanse was to get my digestion back on track.  As I’ve shared before, I struggle with constipation issues and have for most of my adulthood (read more here).  I’ve tried so many things – giving up dairy, using enemas, acupuncture, colonics, etc – and while those things work short-term, I still struggle with “going” daily (it’s more like every 3-5 days!!).  Pregnancy and this current postpartum period have also thrown my digestion for a loop.  Some days are ok, some not.  Going into this cleanse, I just wanted to find a happy balance.

I knew I wanted to try the cleanse for that reason alone.  Having less bloat or better skin would be nice side bonuses, but they weren’t the primary goal.  In fact, as you’ll read below, I didn’t adhere to the prescribed diet during the 10 days.  I also didn’t weigh or take any measurements.  Like I said, I know myself enough to know that I should steer clear of diet plans.  Plus, I wanted to see what the products would do on their own.  If I’m going to be paying for products, I want to know that they’ll at least do some of the work, ya know!?  You’ll see that I did make some changes – but again, those were related to digestion and NOT cutting out food groups for calorie restriction.

The HOW?

As you know, I’m a nursing mom.  Advocare has a special “Nursing Mother” bundle that includes products that are safe to consume while nursing.  After reading some of the literature (and googling for other mom’s experiences, which were all positive), I honestly still wasn’t sure that I wanted to be taking any sort of products.  What if they made Porter gassy?  What if my milk supply decreased?  What if he grew horns?? Joking, but you get the concern here.  I said that if I noticed any sort of adverse effects on my son, I’d quit immediately.  All Advocare products are Informed Choice-approved and undergo the highest safety and quality checks – I found comfort in that but still wanted to use my own judgment.

I’m happy to say that I didn’t notice ANY changes in Porter whatsoever – in his stools, in his gas, in his behavior.  My milk supply didn’t decrease.  I did make one change to the cleanse by decreasing the amount of Spark they suggest from two per day to one per day because this product contains caffeine (the amount in one cup of coffee) and I was more comfortable with that amount.  My sister Katy, who is nursing, also saw no change in her daughter or her own milk supply.  I say all this because I know a lot of nursing moms out there who WANT to do the cleanse but who might be concerned and I wanted to give my experience with these products.   As always, you should use your best judgment and talk to your doctor.

After researching and deciding that I wanted to do the cleanse, I signed up to become a distributor (<-full disclosure here – that’s an affiliate link). This means you pay a yearly membership fee and get 20% off the products. You can also sell products, but that wasn’t (isn’t) the draw.  Just from Katy and my mom ordering things, I’ve already made back my $79 membership fee!

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The “Nursing Mother” bundle consists of six products:

  1. Spark (an energy drink)
  2. Catalyst (an amino acid supplement)
  3. Fiber drink
  4. Probiotic Restore Ultra
  5. OmegaPlex
  6. Calcium Plus

Since I already take fish oil and a multivitamin, I didn’t order the last two products.  My kit arrived a couple of days after I ordered and Katy and I started on a Monday.

Here’s how it works (the “Nursing Mother” cleanse):

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The cleanse comes with a prescribed meal plan. You eat real, whole foods and you eat OFTEN. The products are meant to work in conjunction with a whole foods approach – there is no calorie restriction or starvation. You’re told to drink at least a gallon of water a day (easy) and to avoid dairy, sugar, processed foods and coffee.

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Here’s what I Did:

I tried to track everything using checkmarks (obviously..I love organization).

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Some observations:

  • As you can see, some days I forgot to take all of the prescribed products (woops) but for the most part, I stuck to the suggested supplement intake.
  • I felt like the “no carbs after lunch”-thing was a bad choice for me so I added in a bedtime snack every day (usually cereal with unsweetened almond milk).
  • I ate whenever I felt hungry and while I didn’t cut out all processed foods (teddy grahams, cereal, M & M’s, etc.), my desire for them went down drastically.
  • I DID cut out dairy because I know from past experience that this helps with my poo problem.
  • The Peaches & Cream Fiber Drink tastes amazing!  I like the Grape Spark better than the Watermelon.

I guess you could say that I only half did this cleanse – I just tailored it to my own needs and went for it.  Katy actually adhered to the prescribed diet and had great results.  We took before and after pictures/measurements and she looks AMAZING!  I’m hoping she’ll let me share her story on the blog.

The Outcome

After 10 days, I feel GREAT.  My sugar cravings have decreased significantly (they were kinda out of control).  I have way more energy (I was relying on coffee far too often and I don’t think it was doing much for me).  As for my poo problem – completely gone!  I haven’t had a day that I didn’t “go” during AND after the cleanse (we ended last Wednesday).  For me, this is the BIGGEST benefit by far!

Because I know people are interested, I do notice a difference in the way some of my workout pants fit, especially around the waist.  I feel less bloated, less puffy.  I didn’t do the cleanse for weight loss purposes (nursing Porter is working well in that regard!) but to be able to easily fit into some of my old Lululemon pants is a nice bonus.

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Slowly getting some of those abs to peek back through.

All in all, I’d highly recommend the Nursing Mom cleanse and I already have plans to do another in early Fall.  My mom just ordered the 24-day Challenge to prep for our upcoming beach trip!  If you want to learn more, go here.  If you have any questions or need help creating your own Advocare bundle, just email me and I’d be happy to answer.

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QUESTION:  Have you ever tried any of the Advocare products?  Ever had problems with digestion/constipation?

splendid…lindsay

introducing #15minutesforyou

June 24, 2014 in #15minutesforyou, Blog, Goals, Inspiration by lindsaymwright

I’ve got a little challenge for you all today!  A fun one (!) that only takes 15 minutes (!!).  Woot woot!

Before I brought this challenge to the blog, I wanted to test drive it to see how it would go (similar to any of the workouts that you’ve seen on LL – I always try them out before I take the time to make a graphic.  Not lazy when it comes to fitness – super lazy when it comes to creating and re-creating workout graphics lol).

If you follow me on Instagram (lindsays_list) or Facebook, you might have seen my sweaty morning mug on more than one occasion.

My goal?  Run for 15 minutes every morning for 1 week.

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And I succeeded!

You see like most mamas, I have to take advantage of every little window that I can.  Whether it’s to work on the laundry or blog or lift weights or listen to Henry read, I try to be intentional with my time.  I think it’s SO important to make the most of our days – they’re so short.  I also think that I can get carried away with “doing more.”  That’s why this challenge is unique.

Let’s talk about last week first…

I want to get back into running shape.  While pregnant, I ran sporadically and then called it quits around week 30 or so (my uterus felt like it was just going to fall out).  I LOVE running…like love love.  I know some people won’t understand this (Travis) but running is an easy-hard for me.  It challenges my body (the hard) but it’s effortless mentally (the easy).  All it takes is time and a good pair of running shoes – plus if you’re lucky, you get to be outside which is always great for the soul.  Anyway, I have this little window of time every morning between nursing Porter and Travis leaving for work.  It’s only 15 to 30 minutes.  It’s not enough time for a long run, but it’s enough time to get out there and MOVE first thing in the morning.  Before the mind catches up or food weighs you down or kids are clamoring at your ankles.

It’s a window in my day.  (and the perfect one for a stroller-free run!)

We have to use these windows.

That’s where #15minutesforyou comes in!

The Challenge

Goal:  Take 15 minutes every day to do something for yourself.

This can be a fitness goal (like running or walking or swimming or yoga).  Just to move more.

This can be prayer time.  Rest time.  Meditation time.

Relationship time (might not seem like “you time” but believe me, it is!)  Lay on the couch and reconnect with your love.

You can meal plan.  Take 15 extra minutes to chew your food.  15 minutes to cut veggies for the week.

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Whatever will make you feel best.  Better about your day.  About your goals.  About yourself.

The point is to take time.  To make time.  To sit in the time.

This challenge isn’t about doing more. It’s about being intentional.  Sometimes we need to intentionally DO MORE.  Likewise, sometimes we need to intentionally DO LESS.

To make it fun…

FOR THE MONTH OF JULY, I encourage you to track your 15 minutes with me via Instagram, Twitter and/or Facebook!  Just use the hashtag – “#15minutesforyou” so that we can all see how you’re using this intentional time.  At the end of the month, all hashtags will be entered towards a PRIZE drawing (I’m currently working on the details but know that there will at least be a first place prize!).  The more times you use the hashtag, the more entries you get!  You can choose to split up the month into small weekly (or even daily) goals OR you could choose to stick to the same goal for all 31 days – it’s up to you!

We start NEXT MONDAY (June 30th)! Help spread the word and start thinking about what you’d like to be intentional about!

#15minutesforyou! 

I’m excited!

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QUESTION:  Do you like challenges?  Always feel like you could do more?  Do less?

splendid…lindsay

two months postpartum {porter & i}

June 19, 2014 in Baby, Blog, Body, Goals, Postpartum, Pregnancy, Update by lindsaymwright

Two months in!  I think we’ll keep him.

Life is going well for this family of five!  I was a little worried about jealousy issues (especially from Clara) when Porter came along but I’m SO happy to say that I haven’t seen even a hint!  They love him.  They dote on him.  They ask where he is first thing in the morning and last thing at night.  I just love it. 

Two Months Postpartum – Me

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40 weeks/1 Month PP/2 Months PP

My Body

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  • I weigh 150 pounds.  If you’ve read for a while, you know that I don’t weigh myself.  Welp…out of curiosity yesterday, I stepped on Travis’ bathroom scale.  I’d love to tell you that I’m 100% happy with where I’m at physically…but I’m not (it’s more like 80% happy).  I know some of you will roll your eyes about that comment (Colleen wrote a great post about this very topic) but I’m just being open and honest.
  • All that being said, I’m not making any drastic changes to lose weight (nor do I plan to).  I’m still eating whatever I want.  I’m working out daily and I feel FIT and STRONG.  I’m getting as much sleep as I can.  Basically, it would be nice to tighten things up but I’m not really doing anything extreme to get there.  My body will take care of itself.  If I really set my mind to it, I’m sure I could get that 6-pack back…but I’m not willing to put in any stressful work.  Does that make me lazy?  Content?  Whatever.
  • Nursing still makes me pretty hungry.  I’m eating and snacking all day long.  Mostly healthy…sometimes not.
  • I’m starting to get caught up on sleep (see Porter’s SLEEP section below!) and it makes a HUGE difference in my attitude.  I’m still getting broken sleep but I’m able to function normally during the day and don’t feel like I need to nap as much as I did the first month postpartum.
  • My hair is starting to fall out.  I remember this happening with Henry and Clara.  I need to start using the hair trap thingy that we have in the shower.

My Fitness/Workouts

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  • I’m getting back to running!  This week, I made it a goal to get out the door for a short 15-minute run EVERY DAY before Travis heads to work.  So far, so good.  Gets the blood flowing and serves as prayer time for me.
  • Katy and I are still lifting weights 3 times a week.  We’ve added “finishers” to each workout and they’re definitely helping my cardiovascular capacity!  (would you like to see a few of these finishers?)
  • I thoroughly enjoyed working out with the other girls at Blend.  There’s nothing quite like group fitness, is there?!  Almost makes me want to get back to the gym…almost.

My Mind

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  • I’m happy.  Content.  And a lot of stress has been taken off of my day-to-day now that Blend is over.
  • Postpartum hormones are still present (and will be for a few more months).  Some days I cry for no apparent reason but I quickly see this as hormonal and not anything wrong with life or the present situation.
  • I’m thinking about taking the month of July off from a lot of things.  I need a summer break – a time to be present with my kids and “put my feet up.”  We’ll see….stay tuned.

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Moving on to the babe…

Two Months Old – Porter

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1 Month/2 Months

Just like the last update, I’ll divide Porter’s update into three sections: EAT, AWAKE and SLEEP.  We use (and have used for all three kids) the Baby Wise method and it works well for us.  If you thrive off of schedules like me, you should look into this book (I also recommend, “Secrets of the Baby Whisperer.”  Both books follow the eat, awake, sleep cycles that work well in my opinion!)

EAT

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  • Porter loves to nurse…simple as that.  As my MIL said, he is a little piggy.  He literally grunts ALL DAY LONG but especially when he nurses.  It’s like his most favorite thing to do.  Makes me smile.  I LOVE our nursing time too.
  • He nurses every 2 1/2 to 3 hours during the day.  He cluster feeds at night from about 5pm until 9pm.
  • Nurses on both sides and takes about 15 minutes total to become satiated.
  • Spits up like a champ – after every feeding, you HAVE to sit him upright and just wait for the inevitable spit up.  He’s also starting to drool.

AWAKE

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  • Such a happy baby!  Easy going and laid back…very similar to Clara.
  • He’s SMILING!!  Started about 2 weeks ago.  You really have to work for it (think high animation) but he’ll smile and when he does, you can see his dimples.  Gah – what a cutie!
  • Likes:  Nursing, smiling, his brother and sister, being swaddled
  • Dislikes:  Being hungry, getting OUT of the bath

SLEEP

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  • In every 3 hour cycle during the day, Porter takes a 1 1/2 –2 hour nap.
  • He has cut out one of his nighttime feedings (YAY!!!) – he goes down around 8pm, dream feeds at 10pm, gets up to nurse around 4:30 or 5am and then up for the day at 7:30 or 8am.
  • We swaddle.  He loves it. (here’s the one I use)
  • He’s still sleeping in his bassinet and takes most naps in his crib (in Henry’s room).  He’ll fall asleep anywhere though.

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For more postpartum updates:

One Month

splendid…lindsay