on priorities and the slowness and the desire for simplicity

April 24, 2015 in Blog, Faith, Family, Intentional Living by lindsaymwright

Sitting down to blog real fast before my afternoon groups get here.  I’ve already planned out their workout so I have like 20 minutes to spare.  Porter and Clara are napping and Henry’s doing his schoolwork (which is Reading Eggs at the moment).  I’m at the kitchen table, snacking on some pretzels (these) and drinking some aminos.

Today was just like a perfect day.  Thursdays are the only day of the week where we don’t have ANY obligations until 3:45pm.  Every other day of the week, I lead my Trackstars group at 8am so we’re always rushing around first thing.  Today Travis let me sleep in until 8:10 and then I slowly got the day started.  The kids and I got a lot of schoolwork done and then we went to the park for a stroll and to play.  I didn’t raise my voice once, they listened, we laughed.  The SLOWNESS allowed for that I believe.

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I CRAVE days like today and need them more often than I allow.

I’m making some pretty BIG changes around here behind the scenes and stepping back from a few things.  I want to share more as things take place (and I will) but right now just isn’t the best time.  It’s scary….but needed.  In stepping back, I just keep seeing this pattern with myself.  I have serious over commitment issues.  I am a YES girl through and through.  I want to help where I see a need and I want to be involved in everything (EVERYTHING!!).  A couple of years ago I had to do this very same thing (only then it was much worse and I wasn’t being the best mom/wife at the time).  Remember my “Season of No”?  These latest changes are smaller.  I feel like I’m pretty balanced as far as my attention to being present with my family goes (MUCH better than years past).  I just don’t want to even begin down that path again so I’m nipping it in the bud right now.

I feel like as a strong, capable woman, I’m constantly at battle with myself.  Part of me yearns for more recognition and stuff (my flesh) and the other part (my spirit) cries out for simplicity.  How does one balance those two pulls?  The spirit must win.  It must.

I KNOW for certain that there are many great things that come from my MoveMore/Trackstars groups, my involvement in Blend, this blog, etc.  I KNOW that in my heart of hearts.  I have offers all the time to step out MORE, do MORE….all outside the house.  With all of this questioning, one truth remains – I am meant to be a stay-at-home mama.  I am meant to homeschool.  I am meant to be available to my husband when he needs me.  Anything more than those truths and I really need to consider the motive.

I know I’m not alone in this battle between flesh and spirit.  Maybe you have different pulls than I do but we’re both the same – simply trying to figure life out.  Because it’s so NOT simple or easy or basic.  It’s complex and messy and there really isn’t “one best.”

I don’t have a great ending to these rambles.  Just wanted to share a bit about what’s going on and give YOU the chance to know you’re not alone.  I’m right there with you.

Will you hold my hair back?

splendid…lindsay

porter and charlie ruth turn one

April 19, 2015 in Baby, Blog, Family, Kids by lindsaymwright

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First birthday = pizza, smash cakes & cupcakes (made by my sister), lots of toys that make high pitched sounds and quality time spent with family.

Again, happy birthday Porter and Charlie Ruth!  We love you.

splendid…lindsay

lessons learned over the past year

April 15, 2015 in Blessings, Blog, Family, Kids, Motherhood, Postpartum by lindsaymwright

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First off, thank you for all of the birthday wishes for Porter!  He says thank you, only it sounds like “da da” but I’m pretty sure we all know he’s a polite guy.  Since his party is on Saturday, yesterday was a pretty chill day on the birthday front.  Henry and Clara insisted on doing something (anything) special so we ended up going to the store and getting two kinds of ice cream, sprinkles and whipped cream.  We spent the evening singing happy birthday, eating ice cream and watching movies.  Great fun was had.

Thinking back over the past year, I got a little teary eyed.  So much has changed for our family since Porter’s birth and I wanted to record some of those things so I can look back later.

Life With Three – Lessons Learned Over The Past Year

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1.  Three kids are easier than two.

Maybe it’s just me but I think the transition from two to three kids was much easier than going from one to two.  I think it helps that Henry is now at a very helpful age – he can go get diapers, help with simple chores and watch Clara while I’m tending to Porter.  They also entertain Porter SO much – it allows me the chance to stay on top of any chores I have.

2.  Being a mama is hard and you don’t have to apologize.

I know that I judged moms (and especially stay-at-home moms) when I was younger.  They’re always tired and complaining and frazzled.  Smile  Uhhh, now I know why.  Being a mama is hard work.  There are SO many facets to the job and it’s never ending.  Most days end with me plopping down on the couch and praying that I do better tomorrow.  Also, I feel like I need to say this – it’s totally ok to say these things out loud.  That it’s hard.  You don’t have to add the “but it’s SO worth it.”  That’s a given – of course it’s worth it.  You’re allowed to say that it’s difficult and end the sentence.  That’s not complaining – it’s called telling the truth.  Just throwing that out there for anyone wondering if they’re alone or wimpy.  You’re not.)

3.  Don’t blink or you’ll miss it.

Cliché phrase but so true – the days are long but the years are short.  Time passes so quickly.  I distinctly remember the first meal I ate after Porter’s birth like it was yesterday.  HOW could it have been a year ago?!?!  How is he so big??  Even when I take the time to be good at focusing and being present, the time still passes.  I’m just very thankful that I’m provided the chance to stay home and see all of their days.  Many women aren’t so fortunate.

4.  Leave the house 15 minutes earlier than you think you need.

I’m chronically late (although I had this problem even before having children).  If you invite me to an event, lie and tell me that it starts earlier than it really does (I’ll still show up late).  Getting three kids dressed and out of the house is still a challenge, even a year later.  Meh.  It’ll all be ok.

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5.  It’s ok to just sit there.

I’m an on-the-go gal and I think I’ve created kids who crave movement as well.  A new baby slows you down though (which is a good thing!).  Especially in those first few months, you do a lot of sitting and staying in.  I NEED more time just sitting so even though it’s hard, I’ve welcomed the slower pace that Porter brought.

6.  Take the time to date.

This actually applies to both your husband AND your children.  I’ve learned that if I don’t make the time to spend with Travis, our whole family dynamic is off.  He is the HEAD and the key piece in our messy puzzle.  We try to spend as much time together as possible – I mean, he’s my very best friend.  My #1 tip = put the kids down at 7:30/8pm and then date your husband.  It’s my favorite time of day.

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In addition to the marriage component, I’ve learned how much my children crave one-on-one attention from me.  I try to sit down with each of them at various times throughout the day and just LISTEN (even Porter gets that one-on-one time when we sit down and nurse).  Having Henry tell me about the dream he had last night or listening to Clara’s new made up song….it’s precious, essential time.

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Those are just a few of the things I’ve learned so far.  I can’t wait to see what the next year holds and the growth that will surely come!  I think I know stuff and then I look back and realize I hadn’t a clue.

QUESTION:  Are you a mama?  What’s your favorite thing about it??

splendid…lindsay

one year ago today {happy birthday porter!}

April 14, 2015 in Baby, Family, Kids, Update by lindsaymwright

Lindsay In Labor At Hospital Imitating Sleep

Fetal Heart Rate Monitor During Labor

Laboring On Bosu Ball

2 Days Overdue in Hospital

Music While In Labor

Sisters In Labor Together

Baby Right After Being Born

Nursing For The First Time

Newborn Being Weighed 8 Pounds 10 Ounces

Newborn With Dimples

Funny Newborn Sticking Tongue Out

Funny Newborn Hearing Test

Beautiful Newborn Baby

High Key Newborn Photo Natural Light

Newborn Baby Looking At Mom

Newborn Baby Feet In Mom's Hand

Mom Day After Giving Birth

Family Meets Newborn Brother

Child Counting Newborn Baby's Toes

Children Holding Newborn Baby Brother

Nan holding Newborn Baby

Both GrandMothers With Newborn Baby

Brother Holding Newborn Baby

Newborn Baby Hat

Newborn Baby In Carseat Ready to Go Home

After 24 hours of labor, Porter Killian Wright was born at 1:17am on Monday, April 14th.  Weighing a whopping 8 pounds, 10 ounces and being 20 inches long, he was by far my largest baby!  He shares a birthday with his first cousin, Charlie Ruth.  

Porter is a JOY!!  From the very moment he left my womb, he has been the perfect addition to our little family.  He’s a cuddler and I LOVE that.  He thoroughly enjoys his big brother and sister, taking every moment to try and be involved in whatever they’re doing.  He can say “da-da” and “nay nay” (his word for when he wants to nurse) and we’re working on “ma ma.”  He’ll eat ANYTHING (edible or non) but especially loves raisins and apples.

Porter was the answer to so much prayer.  He is my beauty for ashes.

Happy birthday, big boy!

splendid…lindsay

{our weekend} too much for words

April 13, 2015 in Blog, Family, On the weekends by lindsaymwright

You guys!!!

We had THE BEST (and busiest) weekend.

The huge highlight was Travis’ sister, Katrina getting married on Saturday!!!  We thought we’d never get rid of her.  Winking smile (joking – she’s pretty amazing and always a blast to be around).  Most of the weekend was spent celebrating with all the family that was in town.  Katy and I also raced the Georgia Warrior Dash on Saturday morning which was so much fun.  We did well, taking FIRST & SECOND in our 9:15am heat and finished in 28 minutes – good practice for the Spartan Race that I’m running in August!

Right now as I type, it’s Sunday night and I’m just exhausted and want to sit and be with my little family so I’m not going to recap all the bits and pieces – just one big photo dump.  You can figure things out visually.  I trust you.

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^Katrina’s the one in pink.^

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^”you put this leg in front of the other…”^

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^lol…found it, Kathryn.^

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^Henry says to Travis, “Dad, I don’t want to be the ring bearer.  I wanna be the ring lion.” Winking smile^

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QUESTION:  How was your weekend?  If you’re married, when’s your anniversary?  <-TEN years for us in June!

splendid…lindsay

a little weekend adventure

April 6, 2015 in Blog, Family, On the weekends by lindsaymwright

Happy Monday, friends!!

I hope you all had a fabulous weekend and for those of you who celebrate Easter, I hope you have a fabulous candy belly going on.  We don’t really do the whole bunny and egg thing but we DEFINITELY eat candy on Easter.  My all-time favorite Easter candy = Reese eggs.  The peanut butter to chocolate ratio is just way better (more peanut butter!).  Not only did we have a great day yesterday celebrating Jesus but we also took an exciting little roadtrip down to Atlanta on Saturday.

Why??

To buy a MINIVAN!! 

It was high time too – cramming three kids into the backseat of our Honda Pilot just wasn’t optimal.  Travis and I have been scrimping and saving for a good two years now and we finally took the plunge.  I had my heart set on a Toyota Sienna but we actually came home with a 2011 Honda Odyssey.  It’s gently used, it was in our (meager) budget and I love it!!  I know we’ll have many minivan years ahead.

The shopping process was interesting though.  A word of advice – leave your three young kids at home when you go car shopping.  We only went to two dealerships and it was still pretty rough.  Somehow we made it out alive and I actually think if you asked them, they’d say they had a pretty good day.

Here’s a glimpse of our weekend….

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(^Marley Coffee = Official Coffee Sponsor of Blend 2015!)

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QUESTION:  Do you celebrate Easter?  How was your weekend??

splendid…lindsay