You ever get that feeling that you really have no idea what you’re doing?

Like yeah, you’ve got your basic movement patterns down and you can do the day-to-day stuff ok, but sometimes there’s this blaring-obvious-flashing sign that says, “You can’t do this alone.”

That’s me.

(And probably you.)


(m&m’s help)

I find myself constantly praying this:

“Just show me your will, Lord God.”

Sometimes I’ll even add on…”Just make it REALLY obvious and easy for me to see.  Like take Your big hand and a big yellow marker and mark the path for me.  Can ya do that?!”  I think life would be much easier if it was set up that way – if some of the choice was taken out.  It hurts my brain to make choices.  But it isn’t like that.  We ARE given a choice everyday to either seek His will or to live outside of it.

We have so many choices to make.

What school to send our kids to (or whether or not to homeschool them)?  What’s the best church for us?  What career path should we go down?  Where should we put our energy?  Where should we put our money?  So many questions, so many different paths.  (And I’ve been making A LOT of big ones lately!!)

So how do we know which one to take?!!? 


We’re told that He has plans to prosper and not to harm (Jeremiah 29:11).  So we know that His plans are for GOOD.

We’re also told that He has a FUTURE and a HOPE for us (Jeremiah 29:11). So we know that those plans are thought through, not by mistake.

Stepping Out

Here’s what I think:  There are many paths to choose from and I don’t think God has that certain perfect path, the only that’s “right.”  I think that He’ll bless any path that you go down WHEN YOU’RE SEEKING HIS WILL.  I believe He’ll shower us with peace and strength when we ask for it, no matter what.  I believe the value comes from our SEEKING and our PRAYING, more so than whether or not we choose the “right” thing.

I think so often we remain stagnant or afraid to take that next step because we’re really not sure if it’s God’s will for us.  Fear of the unknown holds us back. It shouldn’t.   If you’re thinking about taking a big step, make sure you’ve got these four things in mind:

1) PrayerAre you talking with Father and seeking His will?  What does the Bible say?

2) Listening to the Holy Spirit –  You’ve already got a “sense” that this is the right or wrong path.  Listen to that Holy Spirit whisper.

3) Seeking counsel from mentorsAre you seeking wisdom from your husband and/or others in your life who can give you sage advice?

And lastly,

4) Learning from past mistakes (“wrong paths”) Does this new choice look eerily similar to something you later found out was all wrong?  Learn from your past mistakes and steer clear of those things that pull you away from your calling.

Stepping Back

I shared the big Yogurt/Coffee shop news on Monday (go back and read to catch up).  And I also said that if this new venture was too stressful on our family then I’d simply walk away.  THIS IS STEP #4 THAT I JUST DESCRIBED – “learning from past mistakes.”  Been there.  Done that.


Don’t get me wrong – I’ve prayed A LOT about this new venture and for all the aspects that surround it and I don’t think I’m doing this on accident.  But I’m really not certain yet if this is what God has planned for us long-term.  I just don’t know.  Sometimes you don’t.  What I DO KNOW is that I’m called to be a wife/mother/ homemaker first.  I know for certain that I’ve made that “right” decision.  I also know that when things pull me away from that role and cause too much tension and stress then they probably aren’t right for us.  I’m confident enough in my most important job to know that all the other jobs I might have don’t really matter.

Right now I’m just taking everything one day at a time.  And praying a lot.  And running to Travis.  (and drinking obscene amounts of coffee)


I write all this to encourage you if you’re facing a big life decision.  You’re not going into it alone and you’re not going to screw up something so bad that you can’t ever be redeemed (unless you murder someone or embezzle a million dollars, then you’re probably going to jail…but even then, there’s grace…I digress. Winking smile).  I also write this all out because it’s really important for me to continually live an intentional, purposeful life.  Writing it out and sharing with you helps me with that.  Cheap therapy.


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  1. Oh, I SO love and appreciate your faith and your heart, as well as your willingness to share both! I always feel like I’m on the verge of a big decision, or sometimes just a big question. I’m constantly wondering if He wants me to be doing something else (especially to bring in a bit more $!), if He wants us to be living somewhere else, etc. Part of this may be my own gypsy spirit, but I think it’s also a passion that He’s given me that I just haven’t quite pinned down yet. But, I digress ;). So excited for you and the blessings that y’all have been given. And I know that He will continue to bless you as you continue to seek Him! What a mighty God we serve!

  2. I SO LOVE THIS!!!!
    I think this can be tough for everyone. And I love the “stepping Back” suggestion! I have learned a lot through my misadventures and looking back always helps guide me forward and reminds me that while it may be stressful mow, I know I will find peace later.

  3. I SO feel like I’m right there. Show me Your will, Lord. Show me Your will. Namely with this whole coming back to blogging thing. I love writing and sharing but still sometimes decide if the step coincides with my bigger vision for my life and if it was God’s willing my heart or not. Why can’t He just give us the clear marked path sometimes? Hahaha!

  4. oh Lindsay- I so needed this today- I KNOW this but am looking at a career change after 20 years and am scared to death! The financial aspect is my biggest fear but the reminder that if I am seeking God then He is going to bless in some way was perfectly timed!

  5. I have been praying that prayer daily! Thank you for writing this! It is so encouraging and a wonderful reminder that I need to continue to pray for guidance and direction despite getting frustrated because I think I don’t see the signs.

  6. Thank you for writing this. I am currently in the last two weeks of my job. My husband and I decided it was HIS desire and ours for me to stay at home with our son. It was really encouraging to see a sister lay it out like this. It gives me the confidence and assurance that as long as we seek Him first, he will make our paths smooth and pour out his grace before us. Thank you thank you.

  7. I feel totally lost at least once a day. It mostly has to do with how I spend my time. My daughter is my priority and I have a really hard time deciding how best to pursue my other passions. Great post Lindsay. I missed Monday’s, so I need to get caught up!

  8. This is gonna sound crazy but this is exactly what I needed to hear! My husband and I have been discussing this often lately as we have a big relocation coming with our jobs. I believe that God wouldn’t want us to live in fear of choosing the wrong path. My favorite part: He will bless the path we choose as long as we are seeking HIM! Thank you for writing this!

  9. When I chose to leave teaching to work from home and be with our daughter, I knew it was chance-y. I wasn’t sure what I was doing.

    Two years later that leap of faith is a constant blessing.

    Yesterday the hub and I watched a p ok d of seals surf while our daughter slept in her car seat, as we both work from home.

    We know our life isn’t for all, but God’s guidance, our listening, our turning to each other, etc has made it best.

  10. My husband and I talk about this subject a lot and totally agree with you! Sometimes God doesn’t highlight a certain path for us to take (sadly no neon signs!), but through prayer and seeking His will for our life, we can make the best decision and He’ll bless that path. Best wishes in your new adventure!!