Don’t you dare touch that bed! You know the one that they spent all morning pulling and tugging on, just so. The one they can’t help but show you with squeals of excitement.
Yes, it’s mangy.
Yes, it’s lumpy.
Yes, it makes you want to rush over and fix it.
But don’t you dare. Because it’s his or her PRIDE.
And as mamas, we want to foster that pride. To grow it up with our words and actions. Same goes for the stick figure family that you SO badly want to draw clothes on, the “swept” floor full of crumbs, the folded washcloth that looks more like, well, an unfolded washcloth and the outfit he puts on the includes a tie, yellow cotton shorts and black knee high socks. (<-lastweek.)
Just leave it alone. And give OHSOMUCH praise! And hugs. Give lots of those too.
It’s part of your mama job.
(then if you just hafta, run into your own room, close the door and remake YOUR bed with the precision of a 31 year old. That sounds silly …. because it is. Who flippin’ cares what the bed looks like?!?!?! Your 4-year old is wise beyond his years.)
QUESTION: Give me more examples of how we can foster up a sense of independence in our children. In others.