i don’t do perfection
It’s been over TWO MONTHS since I wrote about “Tearing Down My Idols,” and in that time, I’ve done so much thinking and praying and coming to terms with what I was doing wrong and how I would fix it. Quite honestly, I was slowly starting to fall back into those habits that I’d tried so hard to avoid and I needed some time AWAY FROM THE BLOG to reassess what I wanted out of it all.
Blogging is unique in that it opens you up to all sorts of different people. I follow (and read) a myriad of healthy living, fitness and food blogs and while I love all of the people behind the blogs, I don’t always agree with THE MESSAGE they serve up.
More times than not, it is one of PERFECTION. Perfection with dieting and exercising and brushing your teeth five times a day. We have to eat this and that to be this certain size. We have to exercise 7 times a week, pushing hard every.single.time or we don’t belong in this community. It’s all so ONE SIZE FITS ALL. And that size is unattainable for most.
This mentality sets people up for failure. My gums would be raw if I brushed my teeth five times a day. My muscles couldn’t rest properly and my mind, my mind would grow very dark I let it obsess about everything I ate.
If I know anything about myself, it’s that I can no longer strive for perfection. I have to let God come in and be that perfect thing in my life. When I allow that to happen, the pressure is lifted and the only thing that matters is being vulnerable enough to change in His light. To change the things that matter. The things that will ENRICH my life.
Not diets or over exercising or a perfect persona or the perfect house.
ULTIMATELY, THESE THINGS DON’T MATTER!
This is why I question the whole healthy living blogging community. When I really examine, I see that, it is, in fact, NOT the healthiest. And I think we’ve missed the mark on what matters, myself included.
Here’s how I plan to blog about what matters:
Write posts of importance.
I want you to learn something, either about me or how you can be a better person. Not a skinnier one – a BETTER one. Not all posts have to be statement pieces, but they should tell you about who I am, what I believe. Presented in a non-preachy way.
Serve up a “FITNESS IS FUN” attitude.
People start and stop at the gym because they can’t find the right groove. When fitness is fun (and we incorporate sports, competition and the outdoors into it), I believe people will make a LIFETIME commitment to health and exercise.
Healthy competition with my sissy.
Show you pictures of cookies once in a while.
I want to practice and teach BALANCE. Not rigidity. And I eat cookies. And brownies. And pizza. But I also have a six pack. So I know that you can have your cake and eat it too. I think STRESSING OUT about a diet and participating in these “food challenges” does two things: 1) it stresses us out – which can lead to weight gain and 2) it sets us up for failure by feeding this cycle of on again/off again dieting and binge eating. I refuse to participate.
I ate this. I did.
Blog with conviction.
If I feel the urge to blog about God, I’m going to. If I want to write a whole post on my kids, I will. Did you know that before I sit down to write, I pray about what I should write? I don’t think that all of my posts are that significant (think rambly Friday crud, which btw, I LOVE writing!), but I do know that God is using my words in some capacity. There’s a message in this very post for someone.
So that’s my proposal.
In all ways, I am imperfect. But my blog is an outlet for change. And vulnerability.
I could pick out 10 things I dislike about myself in this picture. But I won’t. I had a PR in this race – my body is strong.
Above all else, I promise to take more breaks. We preach REST, REST, REST when it comes to exercise, but rarely when it comes to our MINDS. When I feel like taking a day off from writing, I will.
And I might just eat some ice cream.
I definitely will.
QUESTION: What is your biggest pet peeve with the healthy living community? What are we preaching that’s missing the mark?